“I’d denied it ever since I was a kid,” he told the Blade. “I became a Christian, I thought that was the way to deal with this and I prayed hard and tried for 30-some years and then at the end, I was just going, ‘I’m still gay. I know I am.’ And I just got to the place where I couldn’t take it anymore.’” (Ray Boltz, Former Gospel artist)

Samson did it. David made the same mistake.  Today, they are doing it. These are the thoughts came to my mind when I heard the above statement by Ray Boltz the famous Gospel singer who confessed to have been a practicing homosexual for 30 years.

People are surprised. Some say he embarrassed Christianity. Others say it’s not our job to judge him. While you can agree or disagree with the above, I believe the time has come for us to think about ourselves, much seriously, and the following verse came to my mind.

“He that covers his sins shall not prosper: but whoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy.” (Proverbs 28:13)

How do we cover our sins? I still remember a guy who studied together with me in the Bible College. Let’s call him “Ramesh” (Not his real name). Ramesh was a Christian worker with a brilliant gifting in the area of Children’s’ ministry.

“Literally speaking, children get carried away when he teaches them. He is such a gifted man. But he did not seek help to overcome his secret. He simply used his talent and his ministry as a cover up for his problem”

A senior Pastor who had eye witnessed Ramesh’s gifted ministry commented, followed by Ramesh’s fall.

My dear friend, how many of us are taking cover by standing behind our talents. Just like Proverbs say you cannot prosper if you cover up your sin. You will go on, unexposed for many years. But one day, you will be unmasked.

Then the question we should ask ourselves is, what shall I do? The author of Proverbs says “Whoever confesses and forsakes his sin will receive mercy”. So let me show you some steps you can follow to get rid of your problem.

1. Admit that you have a problem

The first step is to admit that you have a problem. You should have a great need to quit your sin and a conviction in your heart which pushes you to seek help. The biggest mistake we make is, we let the fear of shame, pride and our self image to overcome our need for help. Please do not make that mistake. It’s better to open up yourself to someone whom you can trust. It’s better to be embarrassed before a trustworthy person than to stand naked before the whole world one day.

2. Deal with it

Usually sexual sin requires more than just “Fasting and Prayer”. May be you have ended up in this situation because you were sexually abused as a child. Therefore you have to deal with your past. You need help, because you can’t do it alone. Help from God and godly leaders.

Remember these problems start with a simple thought. Don’t take such simple temptations for granted. Therefore choose a godly leader whom you can trust. It could be your Senior Pastor, your Mentor or a Christian minister who is specially trained in the area of Counselling. Do not be ashamed to share your story. But remember you may not overcome your temptations overnight. You would have to go through a series of counselling sessions. Even as you do that the Holy Spirit of God will guide you, purify you and give you the strength to overcome that God detestable desire which bugs you so much.

3. Be accountable to some one

It is important that you continue to keep an accountability relationship, after gain healing through counselling, as the old sin could return to you. The first step to start an accountability relationship is to choose a trustworthy, matured Christian spiritual leader so he can help you in every stage of your accountability relationship.

The backbone of your accountability relationship could be the time you spend answering the most personal questions, your mentor asks you. For an example,

- Did you find yourself looking at a woman lustfully during the past week?

- Did you entertain yourself with pornography during the last week?

- Finally, did you tell me nothing but the truth in answering these questions?

Conclusion

I would conclude my article with these words. God does not reject any one who comes to him seeking his help. You could be a practicing homosexual, a lesbian, may be you are doing nothing but stealing little pennies out from the church offering. Remember one day your tiny secret will devour you. But God still loves you. Are you ready to taste that love and receive help? or would you become another Ray Boltz?

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